What is the point of educating Indian women?

No.. Seriously.. What is the point?

I see none.. None of significance, so to say.

[Generalization and undue (not so!) harshness alert. No intentions of being judgemental whatsoever, just pointing out logic]

The average educated, financially independent mother still believes that daughters aged beyond 24 are like hot coal on the ungloved palm and are best handed off – to a strange male hand. She believes that the daughter should dress and behave with friends only in ways such that relatives and society have nothing to gossip about her. The daughter’s wishes, individuality and happiness are important, but  doomed to the back burner.

The average educated girl of 25 today, is much worse.

One wants not to tire her brain. All decisions would be made for her by her doting parents – after all they know better. They would do the hard work – perusing dozens of potential bride groom resumes, grading them wrt social status, financial status, educational qualification, religion, caste, sub-caste, horoscope, whether they refuse dowry, but expect the bride to receive gifts as her parents please, the budget of this expected gift etc, and furnishing her the condensed list to choose from. She would then apply her criteria of cuteness and manliness levels, eliminating owners of noses she does not like, and choose a potential groom. Repeat process as many times as it takes for the potential groom to turn actual groom and move over to part 2 in life. From now on, all decisions would be made for her by her loving husband – after all, he is better educated, holds a better job, and obviously knows better! Life now becomes full of “i cant, he would not allow me”, “i cant, he does not like that”, “i have no option, he likes me to be only this way”.

If education does not teach a woman to think, take a stand, have a opinion and live life for herself, what good is it?

Continue reading

Advertisements

Why does the young Indian woman ‘adjust’?

Why does the young, well-educated, financially independent Indian woman think that this is a “Man’s world” and that she has no option but to “adjust”?

Why does the “feminist” Indian woman’s greatest fear in life involve the scenario of no one being ready to marry her and her remaining a “chronic” spinster for life?

Why does the “thinking” Indian woman think that any “good news” in a twenty-something girl’s life involves her finding a boyfriend or getting married?

Why does the teen-rebel Indian woman believe that once she hits the mid-twenties, her rebel days are over and she now has to fit in and morph into the “traditional good girl” that ‘society’ wants her to be?

Why does the assertive Indian woman who chose what to wear, what to study, where to work, and whom to be friends with all her life suddenly resign to “fate” and let herself be pushed into marriage and “family life” the moment she reaches “marriageable age”? Whether or not she wants to get married!

Why does the picky Indian woman who takes hours to choose what to wear and what clothes to buy let her parents choose the guy she marries based on just a handful of ‘practical’ parameters – none of which are related to attitude or interests or compatibility at a mental level? Without even putting in enough effort from her part towards the choice/decision?

Why is the young Indian woman so resigned to fate?! Why does she constantly tell herself that marriage – one that is full of compromises from only her side – is inevitable?

No conjectures..

I just don’t get it!

Why do people eat 3 (or more) meals a day?

Seriously. Why?

Okay, one eats for energy, proteins, vitamins, minerals etc. But why get those by systematically and painfully eating 3 or more meals a day?

Tigers don’t eat thrice a day. The intelligent beings hunt, eat their fill, and enjoy life for days together and hunt again only when hungry. Why don’t humans follow this extremely successful model?

If the idea is to keep energy level constant through the day, why not just eat one nutritious meal a day and keep drinking glucose through the day? If Anna Hazare can go days without food and the yogis that India is famous for can live on air(!), can’t we live on a single meal a day? Of course we can!

Then, why the hell don’t we?

Observations :

  1. People don’t like  work. They don’t like to be productive through the day. They need breaks.
  2. If people have nothing worthwhile to do, they get bored of entertaining themselves constantly. They need breaks.
  3. People like thinking about food and what they would eat next.

Conjecture :

Before the era of internet, broadband, facebook, farmville, google chat and blogs, they had no way of taking breaks easily and often, especially without others that they are taking breaks. Also, they wanted everyone to think that they take breaks only for absolute necessities. More importantly, they wanted to live in denial – fooling themselves that they never take breaks unnecessarily.

Since they loved eating food and thinking about food, they came up with this brilliant idea of using food as excuse for breaks!

Alas, the day has come when can get all the breaks readily on computers, phones and tablets.

Let us embrace glucose and do away with eating all the time. Remember – our bodies are not going to complaint, only our parents are. And one anyway knows how to deal with parental nagging.

Eat fewer times, save energy, save time.