Edited to add : If you landed on this post searching for “behind every successful man a woman” or some variant of that, please do leave me a comment saying why you were searching for that. By the number of hits this post gets from search engines, I am totally, absolutely, helplessly curious!
I looked. . Nope!
It is unfair to steal from a successful man the credits he deserves.
How could I saaay that? What the hell do I think men can achieve without all the sacrifices that women make for them?
I think they can achieve self-reliance and excellence in the art of not-being-a-jerk.
Declaration : I do NOT respect Women.
In spite of my mother being a woman..
In spite of women being this species that thrives on being caring, selfless and sacrificing..
In spite of every damned reason that people give for being proud to be a woman!
I do NOT ask people to respect Women.
Clarification : I do NOT disrespect women. I do NOT ask people NOT to respect any woman.
Being a woman by itself does not, need not and should not attract respect.
Being a woman is simply being born female. Why does a coin toss game of nature become a reason enough to respect 50% of the human population?
The International Women’s Day two days back led to the WWW being flooded with blog posts and articles requesting, demanding and ordering for women to be respected.
I would have agreed with these posts had they not essentially said “Women do so much for you, so all men out there, learn to respect them”.
I would have agreed with these posts had they not gone all “We selfless people sacrifice our wishes, our independence, our careers, our health, our lives for our fathers/brothers/husbands and children. You would all suffer without us. You better learn to respect us!”
Personally, I would have very little respect for the door mats described above.
Door mats who have the privilege of having the ability to pursue careers, be independent and even voice out these opinions have no business being door mats.
Being “selflessly sacrificing” and then demanding to be recognized for that “selfless sacrifice” is anything but “selfless”! At some point, women were brainwashed to think that the epitome of “Womanhood” (what IS this mighty womanhood by the way?) is being caring, selfless and sacrificing. I feel pity for the women brainwashed so and often try to point it out to them that all those may probably be the epitome of “Human-hood” and not just “Womanhood”. But the empowered woman today? If she still holds on to this supposed epitome of “Womanhood”, she is simply being selfish, narcissistic and hungry for praise.
When it comes to these modern designer doormats who act holier-than-thou sacrificing selfless souls who have to be respected for their sacrifices. . I have NO respect for them. Period.
To top it all, they go “We are not even allowed to be born. We are not even allowed to get basic education. We are not allowed to choose our own life partners, to pursue the careers we like, to live life our way. We are raped and dispensed off of easily. We are the oppressed lot. Look at our plight. Respect us!”.
What does that mean? “You can keep indulging in female infanticide, patriarchy, honor killings, rape and what not.. But keep respecting us for putting up with it.”????
There is a hell load of difference between saying “Stop atrocities against women you morons” and saying “There are so many atrocities against women.. Empathize with us and respect us”.
The former makes one aware of the atrocities and provokes thought on how to stop them. The latter only provokes pity – a useless emotion when not accompanied by the urge to change things. Or worse, it provokes a tug-off war – Who is a more pitiable victim? Women who get oppressed and raped OR Men who get manipulated by women and on whose hard-earned money women live?
I do not see reason in respecting a group of people for belonging to that group.
I respect my mother because she is the person that she is. Not because she went through the pain of giving birth to me – that is by design of nature. Not because she gave up so much in bringing me up the way she has.
I respect the women AND men I respect for their personalities, for their strengths, for their quirks. Not for what they did or did not do. Any inspiring thing a person does is a result of their personality.
I see people – irrespective of gender, race, educational standing, social standing, financial standing – for what they are as individuals. I respect them for those aspects of them that inspire me.
I ask people only to treat everyone as they would want treat themselves treated. I do not see why that has to involve gender, past/current oppression, race, religion, sacrifices etc.
If you still insist on saying “I am a woman. Respect me”. . I am going to start a campaign saying “I have curly hair and green eyes. Respect me”!